When you’re someone else’s “Tower Moment”: The earthquake they didn’t expect.

In Tarot, the Tower card is frightening for some. I know when I first started tapping in & I would get a “Tower Card” I instantly thought “And here come all the bullshit” & it did; not always how I expected though. I think people automatically imagine lightening just striking everywhere just chaotic messes everywhere; but what if YOUR the lightening? Stay with me here, for me personally my aura, my vibe, my light, is so RAW, so magnetic I attract so many different types of energies (people) that my truth, my boundaries, my way of thinking shakes other people’s world up a bit. I realized after a few blunts and deep thinking I have played that role in others’ lives sometimes unintentionally. If you KNOW me then you know I am very chill, laid back, honest person; However, my energy can be a little aggressive in how I say or do things, especially shit I am passionate about. As a child I was always pretty soft I ain’t even gone front my shit I was and still is a lover and not a fighter (But I will do wtf I gotta do if it came down to it) I never cared for confrontation. I feel like the dynamics I was born into for my soul to evolve was meant to harden me. I mean I have been through some shit that you would think would have made me a cold bitch, but it didn’t. Everything that was made to break me or even change me didn’t. Everything, that was supposed to harden me, hurt me, whatever the motive; didn’t instead of anger I’m filled with compassion and empathy for others. I vibrate so high that I choose when I want to match your frequency—and that’s not often. What I didn’t realize for a long time was that this very thing makes me a Tower moment for other people.

See, when you walk into a room carrying truth, boundaries, and unshakable self-awareness, you’re not just showing up—you’re flipping lights on in places people would rather stay dark. That’s what the Tower does: it exposes the cracks in false foundations. And when you are the lightning, you don’t need to raise your voice or start chaos—your very presence calls out the lies, the masks, the comfort zones.

It’s wild because most of the time, I’m not even trying to “change” anybody. But my refusal to water myself down makes other people feel their own instability. It’s not me being cruel—it’s me being real. When your spirit refuses to play small, it naturally shakes loose everything around you that was never solid to begin with.

And that’s where the compassion comes in. I don’t enjoy being someone’s wake-up call, but I’ve accepted that sometimes I am. Sometimes I’m the friend, the lover, the stranger, the energy that forces you to see what you’ve been ignoring. And honestly? That’s what love really looks like. The Tower isn’t about destruction for destruction’s sake—it’s about rebuilding on truth instead of illusion.

So if you ever feel like you’re “too much,” or that your energy causes people to crumble, understand this: you’re not the problem. You’re just the lightning. And sometimes lightning is exactly what the soul ordered.

Feel free to share a time where you’ve felt like you were a tower moment in someone’s life.